In the Quran, Allah speaks of how He created mankind and with what qualities and desires He created him … For men one of these deep-seated qualities is the love of women.
Allah said in the Quran:
“Beautified for men is the love of things they covet: women, children, much of golf and silver (wealth), branded beautiful horses, cattle and well-tilled land…” (3:14)
In this Ayah (Verse), Allah speaks of how men covet or desire many things, including women … In another Ayah, we find that Allah has created man with the love or desire of physical pleasure. This of course is no surprise. As all Muslim women should know, we are commanded to help control this desire by answering when our husband calls us (Sahih Bukhari, Vol. 7, no. 121 – The Prophet said, “If a man invites his wife to sleep with him and she refuses to come to him, then the angels send their curses on her till morning.”).
“Allah wishes to lighten the burden for you: and man was created weak (cannot be patient to leave sexual intercourse with woman)” (4:28)
Again we see that Allah has created man with a distinction different from woman. At this point a picture of man’s nature has started to form.
A part of answering the question of ‘why’ (are Muslim men allowed polygyny) is exploring Allah’s mention of a reward for believing men in Jannah (Paradise). In the Quran Allah mentions the creation of creatures called Al-Hurul-Aiyn… Allah has created these fair females specifically for Jannah to be a reward for the believing men. There are more Ayat regarding this creation for believing men along with further explanation in Hadith. However, what is important here is just to point out that Allah has made the desire of women so much a part of men that it is a part of their reward in Jannah.
Although it may be hard to read, and it sometimes may be hard to make our hearts in line with what Allah has revealed, the reward is great… a woman should make every effort to accept polygyny for the sake of no longer fearing to read what Allah has revealed.
~ From Monogamy to Polygyny: A Way Through by Umm AbdurRahman Hirschfelder and Umm Yasmeen Rahmaan.
What do you think about this excerpt? What are your opinions on polygyny in the 21st Century? Do you think having multiple wives is desirable, doable or even moral in the modern world?